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I'm Still Here | 2.9.26My favorite song from the Broadway play "Color Purple" is "I'm Still Here." It's a song of courage, hope, fight, and determination. Perhaps it's a fitting song for you in your marriage.  Read More

Mind-Reading is for Carnivals | 2.2.26Many couples fall into the trap of expecting their spouse to read their mind. When that does not happen, we often make them wrong or punish them emotionally.  Read More

Look for God in 2026 | 2.1.26A new year is upon us. Along with the general excitement, there is often a quiet dread that some things will stay the same. That's the case for a husband I spoke to recently.  Read More

I'm Still Here | 2.9.26

My favorite song from the Broadway play "Color Purple" is "I'm Still Here." It's a song of courage, hope, fight, and determination. Perhaps it's a fitting song for you in your marriage.If you’ve ever reached a point where you felt like you'd had enough as a spouse, that moment didn't mean your marriage was over. Instead, it likely meant you were tired. Tired of trying. Tired of hoping things will change. Tired of carrying more than your share and not seeing it matter.What matters is this: being worn down is not the same thing as being finished. The fact that you’re still here, still reading, still paying attention during National Marriage Week, says something important. It means some part of you hasn’t quit. Even if it’s quiet. Even if it’s unsure. Even if it doesn’t feel hopeful yet.Hope in marriage rarely shows up as a big emotional surge. Most of the time, it shows up as a small decision to re-engage. To say one honest thing. To take one step instead of waiting for motivation. To choose the marriage today without needing clarity about the future.National Marriage Week isn’t about pretending things are great. It’s about remembering that marriages don’t drift into closeness. Someone chooses it. If things have gone flat or distant, hope starts the moment one person decides to show up again on purpose. That choice is available today. Right now.You've made it this far. Keep going. You've got this!Kevin
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Mind-Reading is For Carnivals | 2.2.26

Many couples fall into the trap of expecting their spouse to read their mind. When that does not happen, we often make them wrong or punish them emotionally. The result is predictable. We end up upset, and our spouse may feel like they failed or become frustrated by an impossible expectation.Most of the time, we never clearly say what we are thinking. Sometimes it is laziness. Sometimes we are not paying attention to our own expectations. Other times it becomes a quiet test to see if our spouse really knows us or cares enough to figure it out. That test almost always fails.Mind-reading is not a fair standard for any relationship. It creates confusion, resentment, and distance on both sides. Clear communication is not weakness. It is responsibility. Saying what is on your mind gives your spouse a real chance to respond well. Leave mind-reading to the guys at the carnival.Kevin
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Look for God in 2026 | 1.1.26

A new year is upon us. Along with the general excitement, there is often a quiet dread that some things will stay the same. That's the case for a husband I spoke to recently.That is a hard place to live. It is understandable, and it is disappointing. Maybe you feel something similar. You may be looking forward to many things in the coming year, but your marriage is not one of them.What do you do with a marriage or situation that feels hopeless and stuck in last year’s patterns. There may be real issues to work through, but before anything else, a mindset shift matters. I have been thinking about Psalm 27:13–14. The passage reminds us that when we stop believing we will see God’s goodness, we lose heart. When we lose heart, we stop caring. Cynicism sets in, and eventually we give up.Strong marriages are built on perseverance, and perseverance requires heart. Scripture points us to waiting on the Lord, which carries the idea of eagerly looking for Him to act. Not magically and not quickly, but faithfully. God strengthens our heart while we wait. As 2026 begins, do not give up. Wait on the Lord. He's coming.Kevin
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